Tom Caru found the secret to good health is accepting the best version of yourself, not the best of everyone else – face it, there will always be someone who is stronger, faster or “hotter”…


It has taken me many years to realise that the healthiest/fittest version of myself is not necessarily the best version of myself. Feel free to read that sentence again and really let the meaning sink in, like Archimedes in the bath tub*.

(*Don’t be impressed just yet, I actually had to use Google to nail that reference)

Archimedes was a Greek mathematician (among other things) back in the day who discovered a method to calculate the volume of an irregular object when he sat down in his bathtub and the water level rose.

In contrast, the best ideas I seem to come up with happen when I am sitting down in the shower, figure that one out? Anyway, back to the point.

My point is that if you’re really interested in health, meaning both physical and mental wellbeing, then you can’t play favourites. Both aspects have to be of equal importance. That means you need to consider what is stressing your mind, not just your body, and if constantly striving for #healthyliving perfection is stressing you out, then you need to address it.

You can start by first accepting that you could be healthier than you are now…and that you will never be as healthy or as fit as it is genetically possible for you to be. You have to let go of the finish line; the idea that there is this point in the future where your journey ends and your dream physique awaits. There is no end point when it comes to health, except death.

Second, you have to let go of the podium as well. There is a quote that I love that I can never attribute, “Comparison is the thief of happiness”. In the context of your health and your body, competition can be a great motivator, but ultimately you have to accept that there will always be someone stronger/leaner/bigger/faster/prettier than you.

One of the greatest things I have gained from all the different exercise styles that I have experienced so far, in my Around the World in 80 Gyms, is the clear and certain knowledge that there will always be someone better than me at something. Most importantly, it is the understanding that this fact has sweet FA to do with me, my body, my health and my journey.

Knowing this means that I have become much more at ease within my own skin, less self-conscious when turning up to a new gym or exercise class and more accepting of whatever stage of development I am at. As a result, I am far more likely to try my hand at new things, which means more opportunities for growth, new friendships and ultimately, I can be the best version of myself (and still pretty healthy too).


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