We once believed it was teens who avoided connecting with their mums on social media, many have admitted to restricting their posts for their kids or blocking them entirely.
Kim Adam, an administrative assistant over in the States, refuses her 15-year-old daughter’s social media requests, not the other way around.
“I must have my little nook of the web the place I can share memes and publish issues without worry of my teenage daughter studying them and teasing me or confirming in her thoughts that I’m not cool,” Ms Adam told the WSJ.
Akin to how teenagers don’t need their parents following them on Instagram, Snapchat or TikTok, many mothers don’t need their teenagers following them on Facebook.
Facebook is old enough now that many who are active users have been so since they were teens/young adults themselves. Now that their youngsters are sufficiently old enough to have their very own social media accounts, the original users are finding themselves in situations they hadn’t anticipated.
Some mothers fear that old (and even recent) pictures showing them partaking in habits they discourage of their own teenagers will be found. Others fear their household secrets and tactics will be revealed. Above all this, however, is the fear of their children witnessing all the mum-venting that they do on Facebook.
Ms Adam admitted that she isn’t revealing any dark, incriminating secrets on Facebook—she just wants to share issues freely with her grownup pals, some of whom have youngsters themselves that are friends with Kim’s children.
Kim claims that she initially accepted her daughter’s friend request, though she excluded her daughter from seeing what she posts. Eventually, she ended up unfriending her altogether after her daughter started questioning why she never posted anything.
Another mother, Julie Kaigler, also subscribes to the notion of keeping her social media private from her children. Her daughter was fifteen when she stumbled across some posts regarding Kaigler’s divorce.
“A few days after, once I picked up my daughter from school, she said, ‘I must ask you a question.’ That’s when she told me she had seen the post.”
Her daughter wasn’t all too happy to learn details from the divorce from Facebook first. “I’m usually fairly open with my children,” she stated. “That was the one thing I had tried to guard them from.”