In a set of findings that will surely shock few, couples who sit at the opposite end of the political spectrum seldom last. 

 

 

Our world is more connected than ever. Given the flood of news and information we are subjected to, it is unsurprising that politics have become as polarising as they have. A massive new survey from Dating.com has confirmed another facet of the human experience has been devoured by political thought; relationships.

According to the popular dating website’s survey, 84% of people currently looking for a relationship through dating apps will not even consider dating someone with an opposing political view. 67% of users also admitted to previously ending a relationship due to opposing political views.

Politics can be a breaking point for any relationship, from those intricately involved in the practical application of it (see the extremely public disagreements between White House advisor Kellyanne Conway and her husband) down to a heavy argument between you and your significant other on voting day. Our personal relationships have no small influence on our behaviours, thoughts, motivations and even our political opinions, and sex and intimacy reach far beyond the bedroom.

According to a 2017 study, couples who engage in more traditional behaviours in the bedroom (considered “vanilla” sex) are more likely to be of a conservative nature when it comes to politics. On the other hand, those who are more inclined towards adventurous sexual endeavours likely fall into the liberal school of thought.

Minor disagreements and conflicts are often conflated with the signs of a healthy relationship. However, for couples with hard-line opposing political views, chances are you harbour two different sets of morals that might not bring out the best in each other.

 

Minor disagreements and conflicts are often conflated with the signs of a healthy relationship. However, for couples with hard-line opposing political views, chances are you harbour two different sets of morals that might not bring out the best in each other.

 

Perhaps you’re only up for something casual and fun. In this case, politics doesn’t seem to play as big a role. According to a study by It’s Just Lunch, 50% of single men and women stated that dating someone with opposing political views was fine for short-term relationships but would not be ideal for long-term commitments. The same study also reported that 40% of the men and women queried believed it to be “too risky” to bring up politics on a first date.

“It’s everywhere,” Gary Brown, PhD and licensed marriage therapist, said to Women’s Health Magazine. “I can’t remember a time, not even during the Vietnam war, where there was as much venom and animosity as there is now. Even people who deeply love each other are falling victim to the ‘politics of personal destruction’, where it’s not enough to disagree with someone but you have to destroy them and everything they stand for in the process.”

 

 

 

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